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What women want November 26, 2008

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Love.

Attention.

Cuddles while sleeping.

For her man to understand her.

For him to satisfy her whims and fancies.

Apologizes.

A feeling of togetherness.

Smiles.

Takes her side in arguments.

Respect for her.

Gentlemanly behaviour such as opening the door for her, pulling the seat for her to sit, standing when she enters, etc…

Think the world of her.

Put his arms around her protectively at night especially.

Sometimes it is hard for a woman to say exactly what she wants.. but if you listen to her carefully, you can understand what exactly she wants.. coz’ the female species keep dropping hints hoping that the male gender might pick them up and act accordingly.

It is not playing games that they are doing.. Its just that they are built in that way and just keeps hoping that men would understand them! But that never happens. That is the saddest part of life.

Love makes people so blind that you see nothing wrong in the person. But those rosy glasses need then be kept on till the end of your life. Coz’ once you remove them and see the uglier aspects of the person you thought was your soul mate, then love can hurt with such an endless unendurable pain that you would rather wish you were dead than go through with it.

Women are gentle. Easy to get hurt. Very touchy with a whole lot of stubborn-ness. Guys just have to handle them with care. Nothing much to it.

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Marriage. Why? October 11, 2008

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Why DO men and women get married?

They say they love each other. But does it last? Are they really able to intertwine two individuals’ likes, dislikes, hobbies, tempers, egos, whims and fancies and mould it into a single path.. a single road?

I know here I am going to go against all that I said in my earlier posts..but I felt I had to view love life from the opposite point too…

Read why at http://www.luckyandvin.com/relationships/marriage-why/

Kiss and make-up!:) August 28, 2008

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We made up! I’m so happy… oh! We made up yesterday itself… (For those who dont know what Im talking about… : https://4mgiselle.wordpress.com/2008/08/27/i-am-mean/

and I made him a scrumptious snack when he came home from work and we watched a movie..hehehe.. We made out a lot! 🙂 It felt so good to be back in his arms and hug him and just see him smile !!! We were singing songs and just fooling around yesterday night… Today morning I did see to it that he was not going to be hungry for a looong time!!!

O yes baby! Never again is hunger gonna strike him! 🙂

I am So Mean :'( August 27, 2008

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I did a very bad thing today. Why am I like this? Why can I not understand my husband? Why am I being such a pain in the ass!!!! :/

Jason loves me so much and this is what I do to him! I feel so terrible!!! 😥

… 😦 He took his frustration out at me when he came back from a hard day of work and I got all huffed up and insulted at his mentioning that my work looked like a game to him and I walked off to bed. I didn’t give him dinner and neither did I prepare anything for breakfast!!! I actually intentionally hurt the love of my life!!!! I don’t think even God would forgive me!!! 😥 I feel like crying.. Why do I behave this way sometimes?

He takes care of me and caters to my every need and wish.. He loves me with the whole of his heart and would never cheat on me. He loves the food I make for him and he likes spending time with me. Yet, what do I do… I hurt him, Again and again! :/

Fine!I don’t have a job. But that is not his fault! He is also trying to get me a job somehow.. and then WHY did I have to treat him the way I just did! I don’t think there is anything I could do to compensate for what I did :/ But what is it about the computer and the internet that is SO tempting to him and cant be put away for his girl, I cannot imagine! 😦 I feel so lonely when he sits in front of the computer..because the moment that happens, he completely looses every other sense of whats happening around him.. 😦

I did not even hug him yesterday night.. and neither did I give him any kisses when he went to office today.. and I made him go to bed hungry and go to office hungry today morning… :/

It is all my fault… :/ and I am not able to make up with him coz’ lost time can never be made up for.. 😦

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But he too did not come to talk to me after venting out his frustration.. He could have just come near me at least.. He knows how fast I forgive him.. It really hurt me when he compared my field of work to a game..:/ and even I have not eaten anything in the past 1 day…

… Whats the use…? I was completely wrong and there is nothing I can do to make up with him over this 😦 and he is never going to forget this either.. 😦

The days after… August 17, 2008

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Continuing from where we left off quite sometime ago … Marriage went by so fast! Awaiting the day for oh! so many years now, it feels like the D-day whizzed off as though I were watching the NASCAR!!!

And hey! On that day, as I was walking down the aisle towards where my fiance sat, it felt like I couldn’t feel my legs and any moment I would turn and run away home, away from all my family, friends, relatives and my beloved who was waiting for me upon the stage. But then, holding on or rather clutching my dad’ hands, I finally ended up sitting beside my love. And then, everything was a blur till the thought finally struck me that I was married!! That I was finally legally Mrs. Giselle Jason. (Thats how we decided upon the name; instead of the surname,coz’ it is the man Im marrying.)

It feels great to be married. Yes.. Nothing very different other than we are living together now and I can take care of him and pamper him to my heart’s content!!! 🙂 But everything else feels the same and in fact so much more comfortable than even the thought of what if I had to marry a stranger!!!

Getting to know him is like opening a present everyday (O yes.. I did take that statement from the sitcom “FULL HOUSE”.. I really enjoy that show! But, its true!!!)..

Still.. It feels as though Ive been blessed to have been loved by such a wonderful man! He’ caring and considerate.. He’ willing to bend a little and humour my silly antics… Although, he sure is strong in his principles and views of certain aspects of life. But the love for me shines through his eyes and just being beside him envelopes me in this cocoon of love and safety..

His love is like this old warm blanket.. Very comfortable.. very cozy.. very warm and absolutely loved!!!! 🙂

The “BUT’s” of my thoughts… July 6, 2008

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What do you do when a change is coming over in your life.. and you are entering the next stage of your life but you don’t want to leave it and move on but instead, you want to remain a child forever…?

What do you do when you want to enter into marriage with the man you love and yet you dont want to leave your parents..?

What do you do when you are happy and confused at the same time? What if your heart beats at a rapid rate each time you think of having to leave your own home and move in with someone else within another 5 day?! OMG! 5 days!!! Just a mere 5 days and I’m married!

I’m getting really worried. I have not been able to slim down as I wanted to.. I don’t wanna leave my parents and sister and family.. I don’t want to leave my own home and my freedom.. I don’t want to lose my independance and become responsible for another person too.. I don’t want to have to take care of anyone else other than me yet!!!!

I want to remain where I am..    …   I am yet a fledgling, having not seen the world in its true colours.. but having to fly just because I look big enough to be able to take on the responsibility..

Can I? Will I?? … O God.. Must I????!!!  A whole different person who is a separate entity from myself.. A whole different family whose habits, characteristics, mannerisms, opinions, and thinking is a world different from that of mine!

I don’t want to go.. I don’t want the hours to fly by and I don’t want the days to fade into nights and yet again bloom into another bright day!!!

I want to stay exactly where I am.. But I cant.. Can I? I love him. But, I love my present life too. I don’t want things to change..

I wanna have my freedom forever!!!

He called! July 1, 2008

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The sun shines once again.. through the clouds, its rays pierce.. and the flowers with their dewdrops look pretty as I gaze at them.. and…

He called me today afternoon 🙂 It felt so good to hear his voice … The moment I heard his voice, I knew everything was alright between us once again!

I hate it when we dont talk to each other…Then, I cant sleep, my mood becomes foul.. I lose my temper much more faster and nothing feels or seems right! But now, it feels nice.. peaceful.. blissful.. perrrfect! 🙂

Rains July 1, 2008

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Today is a through and through rainy, wet and cold day!!!

Ive been up in the morning and blogging from then on. Yet the rains still have not ceased.. Remember the rhyme “Rain rain go away, come again another day, little johnny wants to play…”? This is what keeps running through my mind..

I agree rains are a beautiful sight to watch.. but I don’t feel so great about it when Jason and I are having an argument! Just imagine! there is just 10 days for our marriage and he can still hold onto his ego like his own skin!!!

Tell me.. Which normal human being is there who is in love with a person and has not even given a thought to the future? Is there anyone in love who cannot answer to “Where do you picture us in 10 years time..?”

I’m not asking for all our dreams to come true.. but just give some reply.. something ..anything would do.. !! But he says he doesnt know!!! OMG! A perfect reply for the beginnings of an argument.

There are times I have bent and there are times that he has bent. but so soon before our marriage.. (which by the way we have been waiting 5 years for…!!!) when there is an argument, the least he could do is think about it, call me up and tell me something right?!

Aah.. anyway, Im just waiting for his call.. hope he does that soon..

OMG!!!! June 22, 2008

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Just 20 days more!!! I am going to be married to the love of my life in just 20 days! That knowledge seen in writing (as I saw when I visited ewedding.com) scared me so much!!!

I mean..a marriage is something not just between two people right.. It is a joining of two families..adjustments, commitments, difference of views and opinions.. OMG!! I am SO freaked out right now!!! I feel this tumultous feelings inside me.. I wanna marry him and share my life with him.. But at the same time, I am scared about how to interact with the rest of his family when we all become one big family in 20 days time..

Ooh baby! I just wish these pre-marriage jitters would go away!!! Thought I wasnt going to have them.. Now, I see I was wrong.. Just hope I get through this soon!!!

I am excited.. (Very much..) but I am a lil tensed too…

The whole hungama of a South Indian Marriage! May 24, 2008

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The girl is 21 years old.. and all of a sudden people begin “enquiring” about her – what she has studied, if she is still studying, what her age is, where her parents are and their occupations, whether she has any siblings… blah blah blah!

Matchmaking goes on as she racks her head to be thorough with the portions that have to be covered for her semester exams.. Her parents are suddenly overwhelmed by proposals both from within India and abroad and pictures of boys – some who look like they could be over 35 years but whose portfolio (which is the other funny thing.. A Biodata!! Can you believe that?! There actually is a biodata which is prepared to be exchanged to the bride/groom’ parents with which you have to select the better one from!!!) says he is only 26!!! Now, could that be possible?! Apart from the very few who actually look “suitable”, most are just unbearable!!  You could say that seeing these wedding sites literally makes the bride cry!!! (The same is true vice-versa also.. Ive seen some girls pictures too.. n OMG!!! I cant believe who they actually go through the humility of having their pictures published in such a property-to-be-owned manner!!! Sad for the guys thereI should say… but well, since Im a girl, Im gonna talk from the “she” point of view…)

Once the “appropriate” guy is “shortlisted” (which is in NO way an easy task!!), they come over to the girl’ house to “see” the girl.. Now, here is when the girl decks herself in jewellery and a saree and serves tea… And if both parties are okay, the to-be-wedded ”children” talk while the elders discuss about how, when and where the wedding must take place..

After this, the boy and the girl are allowed to talk over the phone which is kind of the maximum contact they have befre they “tie the knot”! These days, they are allowed to meet up and talk directly, privately to each other too.. (and I must say that IS good). Soon enough the engagement and marriage is fixed!!!

I by the way know of a girl who when I was studying in the hostel, went home with a cold and came back after a week, a married lady! It was all of a sudden!!! Believe me, we were all sooo surprised!!! Everything happened in the span of a week!!!! Yes! JUST ONE SINGLE WEEK!!! But, well ,everyone’ happy and there’ no problem there 🙂 So, thats also goooood ! 😉

Now, since I have not attended any other religion other than Hindu marriages, I guess I shall talk about that only..

Now, after all the arrangements are made, comes the PREPARATIONS!!!

Woah!! Now, this is another handful!!! Firstly, there is the maintenance of the house to be done – mending of broken pipes, fixing of air conditionings, tightening the bolts of the various windows and doors, building whole new segments of the existing house..etc… Then there is the painting which throws up enough and more dust for someone with no respiratory disease to even develop some disorder like asthma!! Painting includes selection of a paint from a pamphlet of more than a thousand colours!!! No. Im NOT kidding!! There are just the colours of the VIBGYOR, but once it is differentiated into various hues and tones, innumerable shades of colours emerge!!! The worst part is that it is one thing to see it on a card and a totally other thing to see it painted on your walls!!

After the painting is done, there is the re-arrangement of furnitures to be done and the duting, sweeping, swabbing and finally the house is cleaned up.. Now, maybe with an extra touch here by adding new furnitures or the discarding of some old ones and a small touch there by maybe a change in curtains and an addition of extra throw-cushions makes the house more homely…

Next comes jewellery.. Now, for a Hindu wedding, you HAVE to be wearing LOTS of gold jewellery!!! In my personal opinion, it just makes one look not that great in the end!!! But well, thats the custom..

Then we have the card printing which is such a confusion wen we go to the card shop and are literally assaulted with the variety of cards kept on show there that it takes quite some time to figure out which to choose…  ( n this card which the family chooses with such careful deliberation, is not kept by anyone else other than for the immediate family alone… that is the most sad thing of all.. esp card selection. .when you look and search and find a card you like and you invite your dear and near with it.. and for all you know, they could use it as paper to clean animal shit or else maybe just to wrap their food or well, even rubbish…!!! :/ Some cards are so elaborate you wonder why they went to the trouble of actually paying such a high amount for something that is anyway going to be thrown by others!!!)

These days, there are extra traditions being followed such as mehendi and sangeet the day before and then an elaborate dinner with the DJ still rock n roll’ing.. and a very huge reception after the wedding and dancing and singing.. Even bachelor parties are being much more Westernised!!!  In earlier days, the marriage was simple.. the bride and the groom’ parents met, arranged and discussed and got them married off.. Then they lived together.. making compromises and adjusting to each other…  But now, the elaborate-ness of the entire affair is just too much to bear!! n whats worse is that its keeping on getting more and more elaborate only!!!

more c.o.n.t.d. later on…